A Sad Loss

Kabbles · Joined: 16 Jun 2006 Posts: 23 Location: Australia

I have not been on the forums for a while. However reading the forums has given me some certainity as I face the tragic loss of my son-David. He was only 25 a wonderful muscian-composition major from Melbourne University.
In the last 2 years he has suffered unexplained seizures...the forums have given me an escape which is why I need to share this news.
On 21/12 he had a seizure and hit the bricks of the fireplace, I was airlifted to hospital with him....he passed away the next day. He donated his organs and we know a few now have a better life from this gift.
He spoke fluent french he had recorded Victor Hugo's poem about the loss of his daughter and had set it to music, we played it at his funeral. My younger son sang one of David's songs.
We are struggling with why!!
Food and cooking and our garden is our therapy-David loved food and was becoming a good cook
Thankyou for the support that you gave without knowing it.

Judy · Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 10:12 am Post subject:

Oh my dear Karen, I'm so, so sorry to read of your tragic loss.

David will live in your hearts forever, but I know that it's only a small comfort when really, all you want is to have him back here with you. Such a sad, early end to a young man's life.

Take care of yourselves, be kind to yourself and come and visit us here whenever you can. I'm thinking of you and your family and sending warm thoughts to you all.
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Barbara · Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 11:12 am Post subject:

Kabbles I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I send my love and thoughts to you. I can't imagine how awful it is to lose a child. But I imagine it must be the very worst pain one can suffer. This week my brother would have turned 60 had he not died in a car accident at 18. I can still remember my mothers pain on the morning we answered the door to hear the news. Hugs to you from Queensland.
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David · Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 5:22 pm Post subject:

Oh Kabbles, what a terrible, terrible loss. My heart goes out to you. Of all the platitudes poured out when my husband died--the only truism is that time indeed does heal, slowly for certain, but surely. As for looking for a "why" or a reason-----------well, there isn't one, it must be accepted as simple (and hardly) "It is."

And allow yourself to be angry, and allow yourself to be "selfish" and take some comfort in the gifts he passed along.
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cigalechanta · Joined: 27 Dec 2004 Posts: 200 Location: cambridge, ma.

Dear Kabbles, so young, so tragic. I share your grief. My husband died December 16. The holidays were tough to get through and the days are no longer sunny. I pray that time will help both of us.
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georgia · Joined: 16 May 2006 Posts: 456 Location: california

Oh, my dears...Kabbles and Cigalechanta...the loss of a child or a loving spouse...words fail me, but David is eloquent...

My sincerest sympathies and kindest thoughts to you both...

Nicki · Joined: 26 Jul 2006 Posts: 106 Location: England

My thoughts are with you both during this difficult time, and I hope that you find some comfort in the arms of your loved ones xx

Kabbles · Joined: 16 Jun 2006 Posts: 23 Location: Australia

Dear David and cigalechanti I send my love and best wishes. Thankyou to all for your comfort and thoughts.
I will try and post some of David's beautiful songs this weekend so that you can share his beautiful soul.

David · Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 5:07 pm Post subject:

Kabbles!! That is a gorgeous idea---please do it, for yourself, for David and for all of us!
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Griffin · Joined: 09 Jun 2006 Posts: 932 Location: England

Dear Kabbles,

madameshawshank · Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 3:29 am Post subject:

darlin' kabbles..a gentle hug for your spirit...over and over again I'm reminded that we each have a take ...the only word I can think of at the moment...on life and death...when one feels a particularly deep connection with someone...child spouse pal....their leaving can rock us to our core...an emptiness without words ....and at the same time...the moments shared...I imagine, in time there will be moments when you'll catch yourself being a little lighter...at those times I also imagine your dearly beloved son smiling...at his wondrous mum...

that you've given us the opportunity to be with you...a gift for each of us...hoping you can feel the powerful energy of this forum...

love peace joy...I read somewhere that these are not emotions...they are the very depth of us....I rather like that idea...that we can tap into our depth....and at the same time understand and deeply accept that BEing human involves all the other...

another gentle hug...and the fuschias are doing well in the rain...I'll make a posey and have them on our table ...and think of you...
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